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Coaching Book Review: Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home by Toko-pa Turner

Updated: Oct 16

Toko-pa Turner's Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home is a profound exploration of the human need for connection and the universal quest for belonging. It's a great book for clients and practitioner's or anyone seeking deep, spiritual growth. With a unique blend of mythology, mysticism, and personal narrative, Turner guides readers on a journey to rediscover their place in the world and within themselves.


Turner, a Canadian writer, dream worker, and teacher, brings her rich background in Jungian psychology and dreamwork to the forefront of this book. Her insights into the deep-seated human yearning for belonging are both enlightening and transformative. The book is structured around themes of estrangement, reclamation, and integration, offering a roadmap for those who have felt displaced, disconnected, or misunderstood.


I didn’t realise at the time of purchase, but soon became aware, this book was the perfect companion for my travels in Europe. As I explored the Galleria Borghese and Uffizi Gallery in Italy, soaking up the mythological iconography of Medusa, Venus, and other important goddesses, Toko-pa provided rich explanations of how these myths are still relevant to our lives today. That's the beauty of myth; they are timeless, classical stories that always have relevance because they are weaved into and connected to nature. The book also guided me in my research of pagan and indigenous Italy prior to the formation of ancient Rome and helped me to discover the connection to my own ancestral lands just north of Italy, confirming why that is still so important for me to uncover on the path to becoming whole.


One of the book’s greatest strengths is its lyrical and evocative prose. Turner writes with a poetic sensibility that draws readers into the depths of her reflections and experiences. Her storytelling is intimate and raw, filled with personal anecdotes that illustrate the challenges and triumphs of seeking belonging. These narratives are interwoven with mythological tales and cultural insights, enriching the text and providing a broader context for her message.


Turner's approach is holistic and empowering, emphasising the importance of reconnecting with nature, community, and one's inner self. She encourages readers to embrace their unique identities and to find belonging not by conforming to external expectations but by honouring their true self. This message is particularly resonant in a world where many feel pressured to fit into predefined moulds.

The book also delves into the role of dreams and the unconscious in the journey toward belonging. Turner’s expertise in dreamwork shines through as she explains how dreams can be a source of guidance and healing. She offers practical exercises and meditations to help readers tap into their inner wisdom and navigate their personal journeys.


Here are some key jungian coaching strategies inspired by the themes and practices in the book:


1. Embrace Storytelling and Mythology

  • Use Personal Narratives: Share your personal stories and experiences as a way to connect with your inner self and uncover patterns and themes in your life.

  • Incorporate Myths and Archetypes: Utilise myths and archetypal stories to help you understand your journey and see challenges and triumphs in a broader, more meaningful context.

2. Dreamwork and Unconscious Exploration

  • Dream Journaling: Keep a dream journal and record your dreams. Get help to interpret these dreams to gain insights into their subconscious mind and uncover hidden desires and fears.

  • Dream Analysis Sessions: In holistic counselling sessions we can focus on analysing dreams, using them as a tool for personal growth and healing.

3. Nature Connection

  • Nature Walks and Retreats: Spend time in natural settings or plan retreats that allow time to connect with nature, fostering a sense of peace and belonging.

  • Ecotherapy Practices: Incorporate ecotherapy techniques, such as mindful walking, grounding exercises, and nature-based meditations, to reconnect with the natural world.

4. Creative Expression

  • Artistic Activities: Engage in creative activities like painting, writing, or music to express your emotions and explore your identity.

  • Journaling Prompts: Use prompts that inspire reflective writing, helping you process your thoughts and feelings and gain deeper self-awareness.

5. Mindfulness and Meditation

  • Mindfulness Practices: Try mindfulness exercises to stay present and attuned to your inner experiences. Techniques such as breath work, body scans, and mindful movement can be beneficial.

  • Guided Meditations: Use guided meditations that focus on themes of belonging, self-acceptance, and connection to the larger world.

6. Community Building

  • Group Coaching: Attend group coaching sessions where you can share their experiences and support each other’s journeys, fostering a sense of community and shared belonging.

  • Community Engagement: Participate in community activities or volunteer work to build connections and contribute to something larger than themselves.

7. Ritual and Ceremony

  • Personal Rituals: Create personal rituals that mark important transitions or celebrate milestones in their lives, reinforcing their sense of belonging and purpose.

  • Ceremonial Practices: Try authentic ceremonial practices that honour your journey and help you feel connected to their heritage and cultural roots.

8. Self-Compassion and Acceptance

  • Self-Compassion Exercises: Learn self-compassion techniques, such as loving-kindness meditation or self-compassionate journaling, to cultivate a kinder, more accepting relationship with yourselves.

  • Identity Exploration: Explore and embrace your unique identity, let go of external expectations and authentically express who you are.


By integrating these holistic strategies into coaching practices, you can navigate your personal journeys toward belonging and foster a deeper connection with yourself, others, and the world around them.


Overall, Belonging: Remembering Ourselves Home is a beautifully written, thought-provoking book that offers a deep and meaningful exploration of what it means to truly belong. Turner’s blend of personal narrative, mythology, and practical guidance creates a rich tapestry that invites readers to embark on their own journeys of self-discovery and connection. This book is a valuable resource for anyone seeking to understand and fulfill their innate longing for belonging. To learn more about jungian coaching visit Marion's Leadership and Life Coaching page.





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